My big sister and I have not always seen eye to eye.
It may have started at birth and been exacerbated when I shipped her things to the attic the moment she left for college to reside in my own room. It would be safe to say we spent some time stirring the pot.
My big sis said something very wise to me awhile back.
She said, "Andrea once I figured out that your going to do your thing and I'm going to do mine it was much easier just to accept each other for who we are". Or something to that effect.
Acceptance: Accepting who we are and accepting others. This may be the greatest task of siblings. The task of telling us when we are crass, full of ourselves, or when we need to take a risk.
A sibling can be your biggest cheerleader and your toughest critic at the same time.
My big sister has a unique power over me.
A simple joke from her lips can bring me to tears, as can a thoughtful gesture.
I care for her so fiercely that for a long time I hurt her by trying to change her point of view. I don't even remember about what we cared so much about. But that is not the point. The point is we were meant to be together on this path. Blessing each others journey.
Recently our childhood friends lost their sibling too young. The heartache reminds me not to take our time together for granted. I hold my sister longer when I see her and try to find time to check in with her more. Because she is a blessing.
My big sister has a big heart.
She loves fiercely. She reminds me so much of our stubborn grandmother at times.
Someone who will defend you no matter what and not care a spec of what others think.
She would also break through walls to protect an animal in need.
She is precise, on time, and meticulous about plans (something I am not).
She is a good friend to so many.
Thank you Dannette for being you!
Thank you for being a big sister to Dawn and I and all that it entails.
On your birthday, I wish you JOY!
Joy in your heart, in your space, in your understanding.
Blessings on your year!
